Five Lessons Joshua & Our Relationship Has Taught Me

Since y’all love Joshua so much I thought I would share five life/love lessons my husband taught me. 

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Let’s be honest, I married up, I got the better end of the deal when Joshua and I said “I do”. He may always say he out kicked his coverage when he married me but I know, truthfully, it’s me that did that. Now, I’m not saying the man is perfect, he does like to leave things every where and over fill our schedule. However, he’s quite incredible and I know I’m beyond blessed to call him mine. We’ve been together for a little under five years and married for a year and a half {on April 15th} and the man has already taught me SO much!

From Joshua and our relationship I have learned a lot about myself, love, and relationships in general. Since relationships are work and we’re all, always learning, I thought it would be fun {hopefully interesting too} for me to share those things I have learned. What Joshua and our relationship has taught me.

Compromise, Compromise, Compromise

Comprising is key. Which I am sure comes as no shocker. However, I believe it is one of those departments that so many of us could use a little work in.  To be honest, this is something I wasn’t the best at prior to Joshua. Mainly because of my independent nature and being the youngest child {other family babies understand what I mean by that}. Joshua does this with ease though. Witnessing him doing so and seeing how much compromising benefits our relationship, I have learned to do it more often. And want to do it! No body needs to get what they want all of the time or majority of the time. Also, finding a true compromise brings happiness to both parties. And isn’t that what being in a relationship is all about?

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My Love Language is Quality Time and I NEED it! 

In preparation for our marriage, Joshua and I did premarital counseling {loved it, highly recommend it} during which we read The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts. If you don’t know or haven’t read it, this book describes the five love languages and helps you to figure out which one is your top love language. I was actually pretty shocked to discover that mine was quality time {as I mentioned above, I’m pretty independent}. However, once that was pointed out to me, it totally made sense. I constantly crave quality time with Joshua. Which means one on one time, with no one else, doing things we love to do together.

Due to reading this book and discussing our love languages in premarital counseling Joshua knows how to show me love in a way that I will appreciate and love! He also knows when I need it, even if I haven’t realized that’s what I need. Aka when I’m in need of it, I become really cranky and short with Joshua {which seems like the opposite of what I should be doing, I know}. Joshua is then quick to ask me, how my love tank is doing. Which I then realize, it is quality time I am craving!

If you haven’t read this book, read it! You will truly gain so much from doing so. You’ll not only learn about yourself but also how to better love your partner.

Don’t Get Caught Up or Focus on the Small Stuff {Let it go, Let it go, Let it go}

Joshua is legit incredible at this. The man doesn’t get caught up on anything and let’s go of everything, immediately. He can handle whatever life throws at him. His calm, positive attitude remains intact and life moves on. This is a trait about him I truly admire and am amazed by constantly. Seeing him doing so has influenced me to do the same. Once someone that focused on the small stuff way too often {I may have been a bit of a nit-picker before}, I now move on with ease. Doing so has also helped me to see the positive in events, people, and experiences more often than not. A refreshing and favorable change!

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Taking Care and Spoiling My Husband is My Favorite 

As mentioned above, I’m the youngest of three and the baby of the WHOLE entire family {on my mom’s and dad’s sides}. To say that I am use to being pretty spoiled is an understatement. However, I’ve learned from our relationship that spoiling others, especially my husband is my favorite thing. Taking care and spoiling Joshua brings me joy and happiness! 

Now, I’m not saying I do everything for my husband or buy him lavish gifts constantly. However, I do love doing little {or big} things around the house to make his life easier. Or cook his favorite meal when he’s had a rough day. Or occasionally buy him something he’s been eyeing as a surprise. When I see the smile on his face or the happiness one of these acts brings him, I feel all warm and fuzzy inside. 

Faith Above All 

While I have always been a faithful person, my faith and knowledge of the Bible have grown exponentially since being in a relationship with Joshua. Real quick, can I just say, there is nothing more attractive then witnessing the man you love guide you in your faith.

Since the beginning we have made faith a BIG part of our relationship and that has only grown as we’ve been together.  I truly believe that is the reason our love and relationship are so strong. So not only has he taught me the importance of faith in a relationship {it was never a high factor with my previous serious boyfriend} but he’s also inspired me in my own journey with faith. I talked a bit about that here and am now a part of bible study for the first time in my life. I feel closer to God and stronger in my faith then ever! 

Ladies, my top tip from the lessons Joshua has taught me, be with a man that inspires you! Inspires you to be better, stronger, more passionate, and more loving. And do the same for him! Your relationship will thrive and your love for one another will grow and grow. Obviously, I’m no expert, I’ve only been married for a year and half but this is what I have learned thus far. 

32 Comments

  1. elle
    April 6, 2018 / 6:53 am

    Oh my goodness! ya’ll are the cutest. can you find me a joshua??? xo

  2. April 6, 2018 / 10:05 am

    Cooper and I talk all the time about how y’all’s relationship inspires us! Calling you a relationship role model would be an understatement! Both of you are so good as noticing and being attentive to the other and I LOVE that!! And that last lesson .. 100% agree! What is a relationship if God is not the center?!

    -Morgan
    How 2 Wear It [] http://how2wearit.com

    • April 6, 2018 / 10:17 am

      Literally don’t even know what to say! I am overwhelmed by your kind comment. So incredibly sweet <3 truly means so much to me and I know Joshua will feel the same when he reads this. Thank you so much! We love you both lots!

      xo Laura Leigh

  3. April 6, 2018 / 10:35 am

    Aww… Such a lovely post!! Gorgeous couple!!

  4. April 6, 2018 / 10:36 am

    Such a sweet and great post! Thanks so much for sharing. Joshua truly seems like such a great guy, definitely need to find me a Joshua!

    xo, lydia

    • April 6, 2018 / 11:27 am

      Aw thank you gal! Of course, thank you for reading. He really is! I hope every gal finds a Joshua <3

      xo Laura Leigh

  5. Natali
    April 6, 2018 / 11:18 am

    To not sweat the small stuff, compromises and respect are such important things to have/ understand otherwise the relationship won’t see the long run that’s for sure.

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  6. Leah
    April 6, 2018 / 12:07 pm

    Such a sweet post! What would we do without our guys?!

  7. April 6, 2018 / 1:10 pm

    These are such great tips! COMPROMISE is key.

    XOXO
    Cathy

  8. April 6, 2018 / 3:03 pm

    Everything you said, I totally agree and I learn the same thing from my husband! And yes yes yes to being with a man that continues to inspire you!

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  9. April 7, 2018 / 2:05 am

    I love this post babe!! SO many great lessons and traits you have learned, definitely so important!

    Kileen
    cute & little

  10. April 7, 2018 / 2:54 pm

    Y’all are adorable! The 5 languages of Love is such great book and I think every married couple should read it!

    xoxo,
    Kim

    • April 9, 2018 / 8:39 am

      Aw thanks Kim! I couldn’t agree with you more. It’s such a beneficial read.

      xo Laura Leigh

  11. April 8, 2018 / 2:00 am

    Y’all are just too stinking cute! Loved this post.

  12. Haley Southey
    April 8, 2018 / 4:23 pm

    Love this!! Y’all are sweet!! We just completed the 5 Languages of Love at work! Ha!

    • April 9, 2018 / 8:40 am

      Yay! So happy you loved it! Ah and another yay! Thrilled to hear y’all enjoyed 5 Languages of Love and that is worked.

      xo Laura Leigh

  13. Stephanie
    April 9, 2018 / 9:50 am

    This is so precious! I’m about to get married, and reading this just made me even more excited for married life. I know it’s not always perfect, but it’s a serious blessing to be joined with the one person who makes your life extra excellent!

    • April 9, 2018 / 10:18 am

      Aw thanks gal! I could not agree with you more. So excited you are about to enter into the best journey of your life!

      xo Laura Leigh

  14. April 12, 2018 / 11:11 am

    You two are adorable! I completely agree that compromise is super important in any relationship

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