Joshua and I are spilling details on the lessons we learned in year two of marriage.
photo from our two year wedding anniversary trip to chattanooga
2018 marked two years of marriage for us – which seems absolutely crazy! Time has truly flown since we said “I do” and I couldn’t be happier to be married to this man of mine – celebrating two years of wedded bliss (along with some frustrations and annoyances as well – can’t always be butterflies and rainbows, right?). When we celebrated our one year wedding anniversary we answered ten questions about our first year of marriage. So while we’re a little late to sharing something on our two year anniversary (October 15th), I thought before we get too far into year three, we should chat about year two and what it taught us as a couple and individually.
What We Learned in Year Two of Marriage
Laura Leigh: Year two in my opinion was our year to learn. Learn more about each other, our needs/wants, our relationship, and marriage. Year one was absolutely beautiful and we were so excited to be living together, spending so much time together, and of course, calling each other husband and wife. Year two, we probably love that even more however, year two really brought us even closer.
The reason for that, in my opinion, was learning more about what the other needed and wanted from us. Communication has been a key part of that. Just vocalizing more, hey babe, I would love it if you did this or could help with that, or I need this from you.
One reason communication opened up even more between us is our weekly devotionals we do together. In our first year and a little into our second year of my marriage we completed Sacred Marriage – absolutely loved it, couldn’t recommend more! Now, we’re reading The Kingdom Couple and doing so, twice a week. For us, we feel closest when reading these regularly and they bring up several great topics that married couples need to talk about – often. So we’ve learned devotionals and time spent in faith together are extremely important to us.
We also learned scheduling date nights in advance is a must. Otherwise, time passes and you realize, we haven’t gone a legit, planned out date in MONTHS! Therefore, planning and placing the date on your calendars or your joint calendar (we synced our calendars on our cell phones – so helpful) is absolutely necessary! Busy schedules and cozy movies got the best of us several months in year two that we now make it a priority to plan date nights a couple months out – happy to report first quarter is all planned!
Something I have always known but am reminded of daily is that I truly married my very best friend! I have more fun with him than anyone else – whether it’s on an adventure somewhere totally new, making dinner together, or laughing until we cry over something so ridiculously silly (like Joshua trying to roll his eyes). Life is just so better when you’re with your best friend! Cheers to two wedded years with him and rolling right into year three!
Joshua: Year two plus three months of marriage has been awesome. We were able to embark on many first time experiences as a couple. I learned further about how important quality together time is for our marriage. The majority of our trips last year were just the two of us. Coming out of each trip I learned many new things about Laura which allowed new ways to love her. As I said last year, I love being busy with friends and family but Laura continues to keep me grounded in our time together. I have been making sure we have this time as it is most important for our marriage. While I have been improving in year two, I am sure that I will need a couple of reminders in year three as life can get in the way.
Year two of marriage had some tough stretches not in our marriage but in life, both of my dad’s parents passed away. With my grandfather passing in March and my grandmother in October. I was very close to both of my grandparents and this was the first time I had lost a grandparent. Laura unfortunately had gone through this earlier in her life so she was able to support me throughout this year. She was able to help me with cope with their loss. We grew closer in remembering all of the amazing memories of grandparents and the lessons they had taught us along the way.
Laura was very patient and so supportive during this time which was no shock by any means but so comforting. I further learned how much I love Laura and need her companionship. My grandparents were married for 62 years and were in love until the end. I am excited for all that is to come in our love story hope we get to enjoy at least 62 years.