A Married Couple’s First Date Tips

Joshua and I dive into the topic of a first date! A little about ours and tips + recommendations. 

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How did your first date go? What did you do? 

Joshua: I planned a dinner date out at a local restaurant, Rock Bottom, that was walking distance from my house. I chose that restaurant because it had salmon and I knew Laura Leigh loved salmon. As far as I remember, it went well. Judging where are are now, I would say my memory is correct! 

Laura Leigh: Joshua did all of the planning, which I loved! I also thought it was incredibly sweet that he choose a restaurant because he remembered me mentioning I loved salmon. Our first date went well. We had known each other for years and had hung out in group setting previously so it wasn’t quite as awkward as some first dates can be. Conversation was easy for us and I definitely left excited for the next date! 

What do you recommend doing for a first date? 

Joshua: I recommend keeping it casual. Either doing a casual dinner or an interactive activity. Possibly bowling or putt-putt. Something fun to cut down on the awkwardness as first dates can be a little awkward. 

Laura Leigh: Like Joshua, I recommend doing something fun, a little silly. Like playing putt-putt or visit a local game bar {the ones with classic pinball machines}. Playing games together is a great way to bond, laugh, and have a great time together! Just remember, don’t let that overly competitive side take over

Things to talk about on a first date? 

Joshua: Talk about family {where they’re from, siblings, where their family lives now, etc..}, work {what they do, if they have ambitions to do something different, likes and dislikes about it}, and interests/hobbies {hopefully find some common ones, maybe get an idea for the next date}. 

Laura Leigh: I definitely think talking about interests/hobbies is the most beneficial and a great way to keep the conversation positive. Sometimes when you talk about work, if the person hates their job, it can turn into a vent session. Talk about favorite movies, television shoes, favorite restaurants in your area {help for future dates}, and concerts you’re looking forward to attending. All fun stuff and a great way to find more common interests. 

Who should pay? 

Joshua: The guy should always pay on the first date. I’m very traditional and would always pay. 

Laura Leigh: I’m traditional and say the guy should pay for the first date. Even the first few dates. I personally am all about them paying until your exclusive. At that time, there should be some splitting of bills or the gal picking it up on occasion. 

Kiss on the first date? Yay or Nay? 

Joshua: Nay. You don’t want to force it. There will be plenty of opportunity to do so at a later date, if you play your cards right!

Laura Leigh: Nay. Hold off for the second or third date. Leave them wanting more

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  1. These are really good ideas!!

    Posted 3.22.18 Reply
  2. elle wrote:

    Ugh ya’ll are SOOO cute!! Loved this. xo elle

    Posted 3.22.18 Reply
  3. Dana wrote:

    You guys are the cutest, and I LOVED your responses.I totally agree with the traditional way of the guy paying on the first date — that’s how I knew Matt was a gentleman on our first date! ……..not gonna lie I might have given him a little kiss at the end of the date;) BUt at least that worked out for me!

    The Champagne Edit

    Posted 3.22.18 Reply
    • Thanks lady! Glad you agree with the guy paying, I think it’s a must and really does show he is a true gentlemen. Hey, a little kiss is sweet and yes, it obviously worked out for you!

      xo Laura Leigh

      Posted 3.22.18 Reply
  4. Cathy wrote:

    These are great tips! I love hearing about your first date, so cute!!


    Posted 3.22.18 Reply
    • Aw yay! Glad you found them to be great tips. I love hearing about people’s love stories/beginnings so figured others may be like me 🙂

      xo Laura Leigh

      Posted 3.22.18 Reply
  5. Morgan wrote:

    Such a fun Q&A to read! And I agree with you Laura that talking about work can turn into a vent session! Keep it light and fun!

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    Posted 3.22.18 Reply
  6. Lacey Faeh wrote:

    Such a great concept for a post!

    A Lacey Perspective

    Posted 3.22.18 Reply
  7. Stephanie wrote:

    Awww this was so cute to read! I remember my first date with Brandon being so bizarre because we met in another state, and got to know each other via long distance for several months. so that first date was also the same night as our first kiss and our first “i love you” moment and it was definitely weird in comparison to most peoples’ experiences, but special to us for sure!

    Posted 3.22.18 Reply
    • Thanks so much Stephanie! Thrilled to hear you enjoyed it. Aw that is so sweet! Completely understand it being very different and I’m sure getting to know each other long term made y’all get to know each other very well as it was all just talking! I love it!

      xo Laura Leigh

      Posted 3.22.18 Reply
  8. roxy wrote:

    What a fun post this is! I clearly remember my first date with my fiancé
    because he was so different from other guys. I love getting both the male and female perspective in this post! Great tips.

    Posted 3.22.18 Reply
  9. Kileen wrote:

    This is so cute babe! love this post, and love these tips!

    cute & little

    Posted 3.22.18 Reply
  10. Jenny Yang wrote:

    omg these are sooo cute and you two are such goals!
    xx jen

    Posted 3.22.18 Reply
  11. Mariah wrote:

    Love this! Such a fun style of post. I love hearing from both of you. totally going to check out the rest of posts like this!


    Posted 3.22.18 Reply
    • YAY! So beyond happy to hear you enjoyed it and will be checking out the others. We will keep them coming!

      xo Laura Leigh

      Posted 3.23.18 Reply
  12. maggie wrote:

    Great tips and this was a cute post!!

    Posted 3.23.18 Reply
  13. Lauren wrote:

    Aww this is so cute! Love the first date 🙂

    Lauren | lifestylesbylauren.com

    Posted 3.24.18 Reply
  14. Meghan wrote:

    This is a fun post!! I also agree to not kissing on the first date!

    Posted 3.25.18 Reply
  15. Steph wrote:

    This is such a great post! Awesome ideas.

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    Posted 3.25.18 Reply
  16. These are such great tips. Especially for someone who is recently engaged and will be married soon.

    Posted 3.26.18 Reply
  17. This was really cute, I’ll have to keep it in mind!
    Sarah Lindner

    Posted 3.26.18 Reply