Six questions to ask after six months of marriage. Sharing our answers after celebrating our sixth month anniversary! 

photo by faith teasley photography 

Truthfully, we’ve been married for almost eight months now but the sixth month mark is a big one. You’re halfway to a year! Which truly amazes me as it seems like just a couple of months ago. Time really does fly when you’re having fun! 

The first year of marriage can be the absolute hardest for some couples while others feel as though they’re living a dream. Either way, talking is extremely important! Getting to know each other more and more will only grow your relationship. Joshua and I have spent a couple of nights playing the question game – just finding random questions online for newlyweds or couples. It may sound silly but it really is a total blast! We laugh, hug, kiss, cry, and in the end, feel closer than ever. So today, I thought I’d share six questions to ask in your first year of marriage {why not the first six months?}. We’re both providing our honest answers and hope you and your spouse or significant other will do the same. And we hope y’all enjoy this little question game as much as we do.  

1. What have you learned to appreciate about me that you didn’t know when we first married?

Laura Leigh: I appreciate how clean you are. Everyone was “warning” me prior to getting married that guys are sooooo dirty and never pick up after themselves. I have to say, for the most part, you did really well picking up after yourself. You’re also amazing at helping around the house! 

Joshua: I have learned to appreciate your love and how deep your love for me is. Of course I knew you loved me. But Being married has allowed me to better understand how much you love me and care for me each day and in everything. I truly appreciate the partnership of marriage

2. What have you learned that irritates, upsets, or frightens you?

Laura Leigh: Two things, one is so silly but you never push in your chair after eating. For some reason this drives me bananas! And while I said above you’re pretty great at cleaning up after yourself there are times I find pieces of clothing all over the house. Socks in the hallway, shirts and shorts hanging on door knobs, the OCD part of me cannot leave them there! 

Joshua: Not fully cleaning the dishes. “Cleans the dishes” and then I find out they aren’t completely cleaned when I go to put them away after drying on the drying rack. Also, the fact that you need it to be an icebox in order to sleep. 

3. How have we learned to cope with the normal, day-to-day irritations of married life? How could we handle them even better?

Laura Leigh: For me the best way to cope with the items that irritate me the most is to remember all of the amazing or even simple things you do to make my day and/or life easier. You’re quick to help with laundry, vacuuming, and cleaning the dishes if I’ve had a long day or have work to finish. So it’s easy to get over a couple pairs of socks hanging in the hallway. I think we’re doing a really good job of handling day-to-day irritations of married life. We’re super open about our frustrations and we laugh a lot! Which is truly the best medicine! 

Joshua: The way we cope is by loving each other more and accepting our differences as not being a bad thing. I think we handle them pretty well and we’re continually learning. 

4. Do we feel more emotionally connected than we did early in our relationship?

Laura Leigh: I would 100% say you’re more emotionally connected. Living together and knowing that we’ve committed ourselves to one another for life has definitely strengthened our connection. Knowing that person will be there every single day without a doubt makes that emotional connection unbeatable. We’ve learned so much about each other and our relationship over the last six months. We’re stronger than ever and I’d say more in love then ever! 

Joshua: Duh! By living together, we’ve been able to spend more time together and grow a more intimate relationship with each other. We’ve also worked a lot on our relationship together with God since getting married. We read a devotional book weekly and have found a church we both love. 

5. What dreams or expectations did we have about married life? Which have been fulfilled and which have not?

Laura Leigh: Waking up to next to you every morning and going to sleep next to you every night, that we’re both in town. Getting to have dinner with one another every night and have that extra time together we didn’t have previous to getting married and living together. I have dreamt about a family together and continue to do so, I cannot wait for that day {except I can, one or two more years!}. I’ve loved making our little place our home but I am SO excited to have our forever home and really make it ours. 

Joshua: Having a home, family, and falling deeper in love each day. I’d say falling deeper in love each day has been fulfilled and continues to be. Right now we are renting and creating a temporary home so that’s partially fulfilled but I look forward to owning a home together in the future. Also, I look forward to one day having a family of our own. 

6. How would we define love now? How does it compare with what we thought love was when we were dating?

Laura Leigh: Love now to me is much like the vows you say when getting married. Through sickness and health, better or worse, richer or poorer…through everything you have a partner and they are there no matter what. I know that you’re by my side and that I will support you wherever you lead us. Love is trust, support, sacrifice, strength, laughter, joy, and comfort all stuffed into the man standing next to me! I think for me, love is just stronger, even more passionate than it was when we were dating. 

Joshua: I would say I see love now as having more sacrifices but in a positive way. When you’re dating you’re more independent, as your love for the person grows you become closer and eventually come together as one. Becoming together as one peaks at marriage and continues to strengthen on a more intimate level. Life then becomes all about the other person.  

Question source: Reader’s Digest. Read the full list of questions here. 

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